Abuse can be difficult to spot, and often those suffering may not be able to see it, or may not want to admit it. Domestic abuse or violence refers to abuse, whether physical, sexual, or emotional, from someone in your life. Often this abuse goes unreported due to fear or wanting to protect the abuser.

Sign of domestic abuse from a partner include:
- Verbal abuse such as insulting, demeaning, or shaming you
- Extreme jealousy
- Preventing or discouraging you from spending time with family or friends
- Intimidation or threats
- Any physical violence or destruction of belongings
If you’re worried that a friend, coworker, or family member might be in a harmful situation, your first instinct might be to intervene directly. However, that can cause more harm than good. Rather, consider these steps:
- Ask them in a private setting if they are safe
- Provide resources such as The National Domestic Violence Hotline*
- Offer to drive them to a local shelter
- Help them file for a restraining order
- Call the police if you suspect someone is in immediate danger of being harmed
If you suspect a friend, coworker, or family member of being an abuser, hold them accountable. Help them find treatment, but let them know there are no excuses for abuse.
*A list of additional resources:
The National Domestic Violence Hotline: Available by phone, chat, or text at any time.
A list of local resources organized by state and territory.
The Department of Justice Domestic Violence homepage.
Information on Protecting Yourself and Your Children from Domestic Violence.
Content by Lockton Dunning Benefits with info from https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/